Boundaries, Solved
This is probably the most comprehensive, no-bullshit breakdown of boundaries you’re going to find anywhere. We cover what boundaries actually are (spoiler: it’s not just telling people to f*ck off), why they matter more than you think, and how your entire life—your relationships, mental health, identity, even career—is quietly shaped by whether or not you have them.
By the end of this, you’ll know exactly how to set boundaries, how to enforce them without being a jerk, and how to stop confusing your preferences, rules, and passive-aggressive texts for actual emotional maturity. Plus, we talk about how the internet has totally mangled this concept and what to do instead. If you’ve ever felt burned out, resentful, overwhelmed, or just vaguely annoyed by everyone around you… this is for you.
Episode Notes
Referenced in This Episode
- “Boundaries” (Book by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend)
- Aristotle (Golden Mean concept)
- Immanuel Kant
- John Cage
- The One Thing (Book by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan)
- Daniel Kahneman
- Amos Tversky
- “How Will You Measure Your Life?” by Clayton Christensen
- Nonviolent Communication (by Marshall Rosenberg)
- Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
- Schema Therapy (Jeffrey Young)
- Donald Winnicott
- Attachment Theory
- John Bowlby
- Margaret Mahler (Individuation Theory)
- Salvador Minuchin (Family Systems Therapy)
- John Gottman (Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse)
- Esther Perel
- “Love in the Time of Cholera” by Gabriel García Márquez
- Paul Bloom – “Against Empathy”
- Simone Biles (Olympic gymnast who cited “The Subtle Art”)
- Memento Mori (Stoic Philosophy)
- Proxemics (Edward T. Hall)
- Jason Pargin
- Liz Gilbert
- Joe Pass (Jazz Guitarist)
- John Bowlby (Attachment Theory)
- Gottman Institute – Four Horsemen Framework
- “The Dance of Intimacy” by Harriet Lerner
- “The State of Affairs” by Esther Perel
- Cluster B Personality Disorders
- Borderline Personality Disorder
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- Codependency
- “Against Empathy” by Paul Bloom
- “I Will Teach You To Be Rich” Podcast (Relationship Finance Coaching)
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