Values
How to Figure Out What Actually Matters to You.
Welcome to the first episode of the Solved Podcast. Today, we are solving your values.
Over eight years ago, I wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck—a book that, underneath all the swearing and irreverence, was really about one thing: values. What do you care about? What’s actually worth your time, your energy, your life?
So in this kickoff episode of SOLVED, Drew and I are going deep into why your values are the foundation of everything—your happiness, your mental health, your relationships, your sense of meaning—and why so many of us today feel so lost.
We break down the difference between chasing cheap dopamine hits and building real fulfillment, why not all values are created equal, how to figure out what your true values are, how to change your values, how to start living out your values more fully, and how values silently shape your decisions and relationships every day. If you’ve ever felt stuck, directionless, or like you’re living someone else’s life, this episode is the wake-up call you need. It’s time to stop drifting through life and start giving a fck about the right things. Forget the rest.
Welcome to SOLVED.
- 0:00 Welcome to SOLVED
- 6:53 Episode Roadmap
- 8:37 CHAPTER 1: What are Values?
- 9:32 Characteristics of Values
- 13:29 Values vs. Psychological Needs vs. Preferences
- 22:11 Schwartz's Values Wheel
- 29:49 Instrumental and Terminal Values
- 31:19 Hierarchy of Values
- 37:38 Values Conflict
- 41:30 Carol Ryff's Six Dimensions of Psychological Well-being
- 56:05 Aristotle's Golden Mean as Virtue
- 1:04:04 CHAPTER 2: Values and Your Relationships
- 1:13:05 Values and Conflict in Relationships
- 1:22:09 The Clash of Values in Relationships
- 1:29:31 Identifying and Navigating Values in Relationships
- 1:33:40 Understanding Compatibility Through Values
- 1:36:25 CHAPTER 3: Where Do Values Come From?
- 1:37:19 Margaret Mead's Cultural Relativism
- 1:46:55 Mary Douglas's and the Grid-Group Framework
- 1:55:31 Jonathan Haidt's Moral Foundations Theory
- 2:08:25 The Allegory of the Taco Truck
- 2:13:33 CHAPTER 4: Identifying Your Core Values
- 2:15:56 Thought Experiments to Find Your Values
- 2:31:14 The Instrumental Value of Golf
- 2:42:45 The Role of Trauma in Value Change
- 2:47:49 CHAPTER 5: How to Change Your Values
- 2:49:39 Kazimierz Dabrowski and Positive Disintegration
- 3:02:17 On Cults and Cognitive Dissonance
- 3:15:20 Self-Confrontation and Value Change
- 3:17:29 Charlie Munger's Maxim: Incentives and Behavior
- 3:20:50 CHAPTER 6: Lessons and Takeaways
- 3:20:54 Aristotle's Practical Wisdom
- 3:35:23 The 80/20 of Values
- 3:54:49 Reflecting on the Episode
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References
- Join Momentum and take action on your values today
- Shalom H. Schwartz
- Schwartz’s Theory of Basic Human Values
- Political Compass
- Milton Rokeach
- Instrumental and Terminal Values
- Carol Ryff
- Ryff’s Psychological Well-Being Scales
- Abraham Maslow
- Carl Jung
- Carl Rogers
- Marie Jahoda
- Nicomachean Ethics (Aristotle)
- Plato’s Republic
- Kazimierz Dąbrowski
- Theory of Positive Disintegration
- Post-Traumatic Growth
- Schwartz Value Survey
- Portrait Values Questionnaire (PVQ)
- Mary Douglas
- Grid-Group Cultural Theory
- Margaret Mead
- Leon Festinger
- Cognitive Dissonance
- Marion Keech and the Seekers Cult
- Jonathan Haidt
- The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt
- The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt
- The Moral Landscape by Sam Harris
- Plato’s Chariot Allegory